Shraaddh Rituals during 10-13 days after death
10th Day Rituals
This is done on 10th/11th or on 12th day after someone passes away. This includes all 10 days Shraaddh offering to the departed soul. 10 Pind are offered. This ritual lets the Aatman progressively detach from the body since Body that was made from five basic elements was cremated and in first 10 days the Aatman was progressively made aware that the body was dissolved into fire thus Aatman was requested to go towards Pitrulok.
11th Day Rituals
This is done on 11th or on 12th day after someone passes away. Bhagwan Satyesh (Vishnu) is worshiped along with fire sacrificial rituals. Panch Dev are also worshiped. 11 + 5 Pind are offered to different forms of God.
Satyesh (God Vishnu) and Panch Dev (Brahma, Vishnu, Rudra, Yam and Tatpurush) are worshipped in this rituals along with Panch Dev Abhishekam with individual Suktam. Hawan is also performed twice.
12th Day Rituals
This ritual is done only on 12th day after someone passes away. This is where the departed soul is requested to join the Pitrulok, Pind is split into 3 and is merged with 3 generation predecessors.
13th Day Rituals
The 13th Day rituals are done on 12th or 13th day after someone passes away. Various Tarpan is offered to all departed souls in the family, 14 Pind are offered to Chaturdash (14) Yam deities. God Vishnu along with Goddess is worshiped and various Dan (giving away some of the belongings) are offered to some of the family members, to a Brahman and other needy.
Varshi (Varshik Shraaddh)
This ritual is done to let the immediate or extended families initiate or start the Mangalik (Auspicious) occasions that are planned in nearest future. The tradition is that the family is supposed to mourn for at least a year and not do anything auspicious
Basic list of Items
Barley, Black Sesame seeds, Rice, Mung beans, Whole Wheat (All 1/2 to 1 lb.)
White or yellow loose flowers, few Tulsi leaves, Paan leaves (12), Darbh (Kush, Dry & long grass)
White, Red, Gray, Black, and green clothe pieces (4"x4" each or more in sizes)
Water, milk, ghee, 24 betelnut, 46 small Pind and one big Pind
Kalash (3), Bajoth (2), long white cloth to cover both Bajoth, Aasan (seating cloth), Paper & cloth napkins
Wood Sticks, Aahuti Material, Camphor, Incense sticks, matchbox, Cotton wicks (Diwa)
Steel dishes, bowls, spoons, Large Bowl (14" or bigger), 2 coconuts
Bhakhri (or Puri) mixed with Kheer to offer to Birds (Crow etc.)
Pind can be made from rice flour or wheat flour. While making flour, please mix some milk, ghee, honey, sugar, sandalwood (chandan), turmeric powder, black sesame seeds, flower petals etc.
After rituals are done, all pind, grains, sacred thread, water from rituals should be offered and merged to a water body (Ocean or rivers) or should be buried on SW corner of your home.
Dakshina (Donation) for this rituals if all 4 combined on one day (12th day) will be $751.00
The Dakshina for these rituals goes to a charity for poor students for their educational needs.