Shraaddh Rituals during 12/13th day
12th Day Rituals ($351)
This ritual is done only on 12th day after someone passes away. This is where the departed soul is requested to join the Pitrulok, Pind is split into 3 and is merged with 3 generation predecessors.
13th Day Rituals ($251)
The 13th Day rituals are done on 12th or 13th day after someone passes away. Various Tarpan is offered to all departed souls in the family, 14 Pind are offered to Chaturdash (14) Yam deities. God Vishnu along with Goddess is worshiped and various Dan (giving away some of the belongings) are offered to some of the family members, to a Brahman and other needy.
Basic list of Items
Barley, Black Sesame seeds, Rice, (All 1 lb.), White or yellow loose flowers, few Tulsi leaves, Darbh (Kush, Dry & long grass), Water, milk, ghee, 32 betelnut, 17 small Pind and 1 Big Pind, Kalash (1), Aasan (seating cloth), Paper & cloth napkins, Incense sticks, matchbox, Cotton wicks (Diwa), Steel dishes, bowls, spoons, Bhakhri (or Puri) mixed with Kheer to offer to Birds (Crow etc.), Large Bowl (14" or bigger), 1 coconut, Bajoth (2), Nadachhadi (Moli or Kalava), (2) Janoi (Sacred thread)
Pind can be made from rice flour or from cooked Rice. While making pind, please mix some milk, ghee, honey, sugar, sandalwood (chandan), turmeric powder, black sesame seeds, flower petals etc.
After rituals are done, all pind, grains, sacred thread, water from rituals should be offered and merged to a water body (Ocean or rivers) or should be buried on SW corner of your home.
The Dakshina for these rituals are mentioned as above and goes to a charity for poor students for their educational needs.