Shraaddh Rituals during 12/13th day
12th Day Rituals ($501)
This ritual is done only on the 12th day after someone passes away. This is where the departed soul is requested to join the Pitrulok; the Pind is split into 3 and is merged with 3 generations of predecessors.
13th Day Rituals ($501)
The 13th Day rituals are done on the 12th or 13th day after someone passes away. Various Tarpan is offered to all departed souls in the family. God Vishnu along with the Goddess is worshiped and various Dan (giving away some of the belongings) are offered to some of the family members, to a Brahman, and other needy.
Varshi (Varshik Shraaddh) ($351)
This ritual is done to let the immediate or extended families initiate or start the Mangalik (Auspicious) occasions that are planned in the near future. The tradition is that the family is supposed to mourn for at least a year and not do anything auspicious
A basic list of Items
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Barley, Black Sesame seeds, Rice
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White or yellow loose flowers, Tulsi leaves, Darbh (Kush, Dry & long grass),
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Water, milk, ghee, betel nut
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4 small Pind and 1 Big Pind,
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Kalash (1), Aasan (seating cloth), Paper & cloth napkins,
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Incense sticks, matchboxes, Cotton wicks (Diwa),
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Steel dishes, bowls, spoons, Bhakhri (or Puri) mixed with Kheer to offer to Birds (crow, etc.),
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Large Bowl (14" or bigger),
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1 coconut, Bajoth (3),
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Nadachhadi (Moli or Kalava), (3) Janoi (Sacred thread)
Pind
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Make pind from rice flour or cooked rice; you can add more. They are Barley, black sesame seeds (Til), Water (Gangajal suggested), Milk, Yogurt, Ghee, Honey,
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After rituals are done, all pind, grains, sacred thread, and water from rituals should be offered and merged into a water body (Ocean or rivers) or should be buried in the SW corner of your home.